What can one do to meet normal human needs when one is very isolated from fellow Jews or observant Jews?

Hi Anon,

I can relate to this, but I am sorry I don't have enough of an answer for you if you feel like me about this.

But for me I find it helps to have interests and to study Torah in one way or the other. But interests, though absorbing, do not feed one's deeper or more human needs. And they can lead one into "dangerous" territory. Also, how much aloneness can you stand? So I hope somebody else can help us both.

Rosemary

I think a lot of it depends on the circumstances of the isolation. Is is simple a geographic coincidence, or is it something much deeper that must be gone throught o be over come? The geographic circumstances are easy enough to surmoount, but what if part of the isolation is due to malicious intent, criminal attack, or a slandered reputation? What if every attempt to connect with a community, every attempt to surmount the geography was being interfered with? I tend to fall back on the axiom that some observance is better than none, and I happen to believe the master of all creation is able to see and to accept that which you are able to give him...and then he smiles, and he applauds you; because even in your grief, your danger, your emotionally, spiritually and physically impoverished circumstances, you still dedicate all that you have and all that you are, no matter how small, to his purpose. In those respects, your gifts, your acts, are much larger than the significanlty blessed who give out of appearance.

shalom

well why dont you just move closer to a jew comunity? I believe there are some Mitzvot related to their compliance in community. So it is important. I am in the same position, and am looking the way to either move to Israel and settle there or move closer to a orthodox affiliated community in order to be able to make minyan and correctly be able to meet my obligations. Be strong and build character to fulfill our needs.

Todah

Dear Anonymous Member,

This is truly a difficult problem! I'm sure you really appreciate the great need for friendship and companionship. I assume that you are not in a position to move because that is the most obvious solution and you'd probably have done so already.

Know - I've been in your shoes on several occasions, so know you're not alone.

Also, perhaps my experiences may be helpful for you.

1. KNOW - When you are alone YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Hashem is ALWAYS there. Rav Nachman of Breslov says, "Where is Hashem? Wherever we let him in!"
This is a profound thought. Keep in mind that when we are with others it is hard to focus on Hashem's presence. Use at least part of this time to contemplate on Hashem and to speak to him as well. After all, isn't this the main purpose of our existence? To attach ourselves to Hashem.

2. Use this time also for developing Outlooks in life. All of creation was created in order to recognize Hashem. I learnt once from a tape of Rav Avigdor Miller, ztl to look at flowers and recognize the Chesed (kindness) of Hashem. Is there any other purpose for making flowers various colors and styles other than to give people pleasure? Color in general was created for that purpose. Avaraham Avinu was noted for his Chesed. This he learnt from Hashem. How do you think he learnt this? By observing the world around him!

3. Try to expand your knowledge of Torah. Read, Read, Read! Also, listen to Torah Tapes. http://www.aishaudio.com/login.php?sid=

4. All in all, we still need communication. Baruch Hashem for you the Web offers many opportunities to connect to other Frum Jews. Take advantage.

5. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EVERY POSSIBLE OPPORTUNITY TO STAY BY FRUM FAMILIES FOR SHABBOS!!! Every adult is burdened with the responsibility to earn a living. Weekdays are hard to develop relationships with outside of work. Shabbos is a wonderful time to do so.

I hope these advice will prove helpful.

Be G'Bentched!

Magedman